When my son turned 40, I told him I was giving him his independence for his birthday. I told him I was done giving him money and bailing him out of situations he got into—basically, everything your therapist advised. He didn't talk to me for five months, breaking my heart. He finally came around and said he understood. He's 46 now and living in his car with his dog. He spent Thanksgiving and Christmas that way, and it's torture. I feel your pain. God bless you. All we can do is pray for them. 🙏