I'm going to suggest prayer. It's the only thing that keeps me sane. My son has so many issues, many of them stemming from my codependency. I was a classic enabler and bailed him out of situations that I should have left him to handle on his own. At 45 he's still a mess, and I'm still praying. God has promises for our children, and I've decided to embrace them and give my son's care over to Him. It brought me more peace than I can say. If you're not a believer, this probably won't help. You need to believe to receive. I'll be praying for your family. 🙏🏻