I'm a codependent I'm married to an alcoholic. We enablers do a lot of denying too. My husband was sober for almost 13 years. He started drinking again about five years ago. I'm grateful that it hasn't gotten out of hand again. That's a total God thing. Thankfully, I'm not the controlling and manipulative person I was back then. We all have our challenges and it sounds like you got a healthy handle on yours. Congratulations on your sobriety. Keep up the good work and keep being honest with yourself and others. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless